I’m kind of a big deal
“I’m kind of a big deal.”
You’re telling the people around you how you expect to be treated.
I'm Kind of a Big Deal
"I'm kind of a big deal."
That phrase makes me laugh every time I say it because it sounds a little ridiculous when you first hear it. It almost sounds like something a celebrity would say while walking into a room expecting everyone to notice. But that isn't what I mean at all. When I say it, I'm not talking about ego. I'm talking about self-worth. I'm talking about reminding ourselves that we matter and that our lives, our goals, and our happiness deserve our attention.
As women, we spend so much of our lives taking care of other people that it's easy to forget we matter too. We show up for our families, our friends, our coworkers, our communities, and often put ourselves at the very bottom of the list. We become so focused on what everyone else needs that we stop asking what would make us happy, what would help us grow, or what kind of life we truly want to create. Somewhere along the way, many of us start believing that wanting more for ourselves is selfish when, in reality, it's one of the healthiest things we can do.
One of the biggest lessons I've learned is that confidence isn't something you magically wake up with one day. Confidence is often a decision. It's deciding that your dreams are worth pursuing. It's deciding that your voice deserves to be heard. It's deciding that you no longer need to shrink yourself to make other people comfortable. Every time you choose to honor your own worth, you build a little more confidence. Every time you stop apologizing for taking up space, speaking up, or chasing a goal that excites you, you reinforce the message that you are someone worth investing in.
The people around us play a bigger role in this than we often realize. Over the years, I've learned that the people you spend the most time with will either help you grow or quietly encourage you to stay exactly where you are. If you're surrounded by people who roll their eyes at your goals, make fun of your dreams, or only support you when it's convenient, it's difficult to become the person you're capable of becoming. On the other hand, when you're surrounded by people who believe in you, encourage you, and celebrate your growth, incredible things can happen. Those people remind you of your strength on the days when you've forgotten it yourself.
I've seen this in my own life with Ornery Mule Racing. None of what exists today would have happened without people who believed in the vision long before there was any proof it would succeed. They believed before the races grew, before the community expanded, and before there were any guarantees. They stood beside me during the exciting moments, but they also stood beside me during the difficult ones when I was tired, overwhelmed, and questioning whether I could keep going. Big dreams are rarely accomplished alone. They grow when they are supported by people who see your potential, sometimes before you can see it yourself.
I've also learned that not everyone is going to understand you, and that's perfectly okay. Not everyone is going to share your vision, your passion, or your excitement about what you're building. Some people will think you're too ambitious, too optimistic, too loud, or too much. For a long time, I thought that meant I needed to change something about myself. Now I understand that it simply means those people aren't my people. The moment you stop trying to earn approval from everyone is the moment you become much freer to live the life that feels right for you.
The same is true in our closest relationships. The people who love us should want to see us thrive. They should celebrate our growth, encourage our dreams, and support our efforts to become better versions of ourselves. You should never feel like you need to make yourself smaller to maintain a relationship. You should never feel guilty for growing, evolving, or wanting more from your life. The right people won't be threatened by your light. They'll help you shine even brighter.
As I've gotten older, I've become more convinced that one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves is permission to love our now. Not someday when we lose the weight. Not someday when we earn the promotion. Not someday when we finally feel confident enough. Right now. Today. This season of life deserves your appreciation too. You can be grateful for who you are today while still working toward who you want to become tomorrow. Those two things can exist together.
So when I say, "I'm kind of a big deal," what I really mean is that I've stopped waiting for permission to value myself. I've stopped believing my worth is tied to a finish line, a number on a scale, or someone else's approval. I've decided that my happiness matters, my goals matter, and my life matters. I want the same thing for you.
Live boldly. Make choices that bring you joy. Chase the adventure. Set the goal. Wear the outfit. Take the trip. Start the business. Sign up for the race. Build the life that feels exciting to you. Most importantly, become a big deal to yourself, because when you truly value yourself, you teach the world how to value you too.
And if saying it makes you laugh, that's okay.
I'm kind of a big deal.
And you are too. 💛
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